BY SYAFIQAH IDAYU BINTI ROSLI
“I’m just the average student in the average school.
I score average marks, for the average paper.
I’m that student, don’t you see? Someone has to be that student.”
Are you that student?”
All too often do I see students – no, people – who draw back, yanks themselves back to the throes of everyday life. People who pinch themselves awake from the dreams they pursue at night.
Dreams that they believe unrealistic, impossible, even cruel to consider theirs.
I won’t pretend I don’t know why. For a long time, I have considered myself to be that average person. I do well, sometimes. Often, I don’t. Thing is, when you’ve been in that cycle where you’ve never shined, why should you believe you could be that seemingly far away star one day?
What makes you so special?
You’re special ‘cause you’re You
Ah well. A little cliché. A little too common a remark.
All the more you can’t deny it.
Remember, there has never been another YOU in the history of human existence, and in all the time to come, no one – yes, no one – will ever be exactly the same as YOU.
That is your strength as an individual.
You may say everyone has that then, but what makes you unique? The fact that only you can decide how you put that strength to use.
Sometimes being special means being one of many
Out of the billions of people, it is only normal to be one of the crowds. Don’t be too hard on yourself simply because you aren’t one of those child celebrities or multi-talented kids on the street.
You just haven’t found the moment to shine yet.
As a student who has been always ordinary in nearly everything, allow me to give you some advice to tide you through your belief – even the slightest existence of one – that you cannot go far.
1. Scheduling your dreams
Be long-term oriented. Think of what you want, who you want to be.
A businessman? An artist? Perhaps an ice-cream man who wishes to bring beautiful smiles to kids down the street. Whoever you want to be makes you no less ambitious.
It is those who are too afraid that are.
If you wish to be a humanitarian, what steps must you take? Would diving headfirst into the task deprive you of sufficient wages to meet you living expenses? What must you do to balance that need?
Consider what you need, when you need it, and how to make use of it to its fullest potential.
Pre-planning goes way further than you might think.
2. Tearing that low self-esteem into tiny.. empty…pieces
Grab that doubt residing in the edges of your mind and erase it. Pull it, screaming and kicking, into whatever recesses things go to when your mind forgets something.
There is no place for low self-esteem in this society where everyone is a competitor.
No one can do the ‘believing in yourself for yourself’ but you.
If someone grabs your ankles and pull, stand your ground. Stand tall.
If someone tells you that you aren’t good enough, that you can’t make it. You can do it.
If someone claws at your confidence and hurls insults about you. Keep moving forward.
Show you are above name-calling and do not cave to them.
“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”
― J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan
3. Think: how much?
I’ve always dreamed of entering University. Make my parents proud and just being that student my teachers never really believed I could be. A typical dream, but my current one nonetheless.
I have bigger dreams.
For one moment – this one moment – think of what you want. Just let yourself fall into those waters of thoughts and imaginings.
I see myself standing on a podium, with that garish hat on my head, holding a piece of tied paper tightly within the firm grasp of my palm. I’d be smiling with that light-hearted wonder on my shoulders. And I sincerely, truly want it.
What about you?
4. Only you hold the reins to your ambitions
It is a regular occurrence for youths (not limited to them) to be swayed by their peers. For this, I hope the following quote conveys enough for you to understand my perspective.
5. Finding the way
It is a luxury for those who have always known what they want to do, whom they wish to be.
For others like me, we take much longer to find that which tugs on our passion and calls for our attention.
Some of us take a few years, while others a much longer timeframe to conclude our ‘hunt’.
Once you really believe that you can, you have opened the doors for so many pathways. Take your time. If you find that the path is not suited, turn around and head for that other door.
But are you brave enough to chase after them?
Your ambitions are there for you to take. But are you brave enough to chase after it?
Belief is not simply the art of telling yourself you can (though it plays a huge part), but in convincing yourself that it is true.
And it is.
In the palm of your hand
Take this moment to look at both your palms. Stretch your fingers and just look.
Is it empty?
Think ten, twenty years from now. Would those hands belong to someone successful (by your own terms) or would they still be vacant and bare?
That is up to you to decide.
Syafiqah Idayu Binti Rosli